The First Meltdown that I Handled Differently

Meltdowns, as well as screaming in general, have been hard for me to deal with. Since the early days of Elizabeth’s issues, I have felt upset each time she is upset. At first, I wanted her to stop – just STOP – because the noise bothered me and because I felt she was being unruly…misbehaving…perhaps early terrible twos.

But then, once we were looking at the possibility of autism, I found myself having compassion where there used to be confusion. I still very much wanted the crying, screaming, and tantruming to stop, and I still felt upset because it was uncomfortable, but I no longer felt it was bad behavior. I began looking at each situation uniquely and also really attempted to find the REASON for the reaction. This helped us both but I still felt an edgyness and panic at the idea of her getting upset.

All of the emotions I have experienced in the last year and a half have been more than I could express in a single post, but it has been tough. I have wanted to react calmly and balanced to her frustrations but I didn’t know how until now.

This afternoon, she got VERY upset about having to get dressed in her normal t-shirt and pants (triggered in part because of water play outside but also, I think, because I bought new shirts for her a few days ago that she seems weird about and has rejected so far). At any rate, she was screaming and crying, trying to pull her clothes off. But I stayed calm. I felt calm. And you know what? I handled it like normal but I FELT differently about it.

She finally settled down after twenty or so minutes and then climbed up into my lap and fell asleep. I moved her into a comfy position after a few minutes and she took a nice nap.

I love this little girl so much.

4 thoughts on “The First Meltdown that I Handled Differently

  1. how you write and the pictures that you take show how much you LOVE her and your whole family. I see how much of a blessing you are to any one around YOU. YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL GIFT!!!

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  2. Oh, my goodness! Her long lashes!! ❤ That does indeed look like a comfy position to sleep in.

    It all starts in the heart, the inward battle of the mind and spirit. This is powerful Valerie! It may look the same on the outside, but like you said, the inside makes all the difference!

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